|Posted by [email protected] on June 29, 2017 at 4:20 PM|
Having goals keeps us moving forward and gives us direction in our lives. When we do not have goals, we have nothing to reach for daily. Now, I know that living with seizures that sometimes we cannot work or that some activities are simply out of the question. For instance, if we live with seizures we will not be an airplane pilot or having a required set work schedule may seem out of reach.
The important thing is to reach for daily goals that are attainable. Goals that make us feel good and get us excited to get out of bed each morning, or that we know we will feel good for doing after the fact. Maybe a goal of reading a book each month, walking daily, instead of watching the kids have fun join them or return to school to educate ourselves for a new career. This list can go on and on.
Today create one goal that feels good to you that gets you excited and put in on your calendar. Make it a priority. Having goals can raise our self-esteem, relieve stress, change our focus away from seizures, give our lives purpose and keep us moving forward.
Make Friends with Our Seizures
Yes, you read it right! Make friends with our seizures. Why? Because it can be a huge teacher in our lives. We can either spend our day fighting and being angry with the seizures or we can let it be our teacher. When we live with seizures we can choose to listen each day with a mind – body – spirit scan to ask ourselves what it is that we need. When we really pay attention, we will get messages about what we need. That may mean learning to live stress free, or change up our meal plan, getting some form of movement in, getting some rest, meditation or any other change that we know we need to make. One change at a time.
When we fight with the seizures that we are living with it gets worse because what we focus on gets bigger and whatever we fight will fight back. So, let’s make friends with it and relax a bit.
Today take some time to learn what the seizures are trying to tell you. What messages has it been giving you while you were busy fighting it?
Find Our Identity
Often, we say that we have seizures. We don’t have anything! We live with seizures we do not own them. We are separate from seizures as a person. It is important for us to have and acknowledge our identity. For instance, I am a mother, daughter, wife, sister, grandmother, college graduate, holistic practitioner, avid reader, love the outdoors, enjoy the theatre, and am an aspiring author and I just happen to live with seizures.
It is important for us to find our identity outside of the seizures that we live with because it is only one piece of our life. If we do not find our identity than we tend to invite seizures in to take us over. It is up to us to fill our own lives with our authentic selves leaving less room for seizures to reside.
Today take the time to know who you are and celebrate it. If you are not sure who you are than make a goal of trying something new and see if you like it. If you don’t like it than sum it up to a learning experience. If you do like your new experience than you have found one more piece of the puzzle called YOU.
While me must live our lives with our whole identity and have goals we still need to be smart and honor the seizures that we live with. What I mean by this for example is that if we know that certain foods, situations, feelings, etc. are a trigger to the seizures that we live with than we must learn to avoid the triggers. When we sense that the seizures are telling us something we should listen. This is where learning comes into play, as I mentioned before making friends with seizures can be a learning experience.
We can honor seizures and still have a full life. What we do not want to do is give in at every turn. Sometimes we will have symptoms that will be there no matter what. We have a choice to live a high quality of life anyways or give in and “rest” all the time “just in case.” I am not saying to not rest I am saying rest when it makes sense and not as a lifestyle.
Today ask yourself if resting or living a low quality of life is necessary or has it become habit. If it has become a habit than it is time to learn some new habits. If it is time to rest than rest.
Many of us who live with seizures also have spouses, children, jobs and other responsibilities. We tend to put others needs before our own, but we can’t give what we don’t have.
We need to put our own self-care first!
Self-care cannot be outsourced!
We must do it ourselves!
I punctuated to make a point. I hope that you get this because it took me a long time to realize that no doctor, personal trainer, nutritionist, friend, spouse, family member, magic pill or special potion was going to fix it all for me. There are many people that can support us and give us tools, but ultimately it is up to us to make use of the support and tools. Making changes to every single area of our lives may be necessary. Take one step at time and the steps build onto each other.
Today put yourself on the calendar and stick to it. When we take care of our mind – body – spirit we can go from a low quality of life to our highest quality of life despite seizures.
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